#1 Myth about Trauma- It’s still something that either happens to a member of the military or is really, really violent.
Yes but a real big no.
What is trauma?
Here’s the deal what makes an event traumatic is not the event itself but it’s the individual’s perception of the event. At Revitalizing Inner Self Essence, our definition of trauma is this: something that happens to you directly, that you witness happening to someone else, or that someone has told you about (i.e 9/11 or BLM homicides) that has an internal impact. The event typically affects one or all of these three things:
- How you see yourself.
- How you see others
- How you see the world.
How do I know if I’ve been impacted by trauma? Here are some ways trauma shows up in your life:
- Decreased desire to engage in sexual intercourse
- Fixation on structure, rules, performance or control
- Being bothered or easily angered by what others do or don’t do
- Loss of friends and/or withdrawal from social engagement
- Decreased desire to engage in hobbies that once made you happy
- Struggles engaging in intimate relationships
- Sabotaging relationships or opportunities out of fear of a positive outcome
- Difficulty getting along with your boss, co-workers or family members
A note on the word trigger…
You’ve probably heard the word trigger at least once. When you heard it, the word trigger was probably explained in a way that suggested that being triggered is bad. This is not true. At Revitalizing Inner Self Essence, a trigger is defined as something or someone that reminds you of something that happened in the past, that didn’t go well. Being triggered really means that your body thinks you are in currently in danger and wants to do something to protect you. Being triggered is normal. Being triggered happens to everyone because your body is not only supposed to protect from danger but is designed to do so. It’s not a bad thing it’s a survival thing.
Some things that may trigger you:
- Certain scents
- People that resemble folks that have caused you harm
- Hearing hurtful phrases again
- Not being heard
- Not having control
- Someone yelling at you or being unkind
- Someone discriminating against you
- Someone shaming or blaming you
- Being cheated on
- Being controlled, or manipulated
- Being ignored
What does trauma therapy look like?
Trauma involves a lot of pacing which means that therapy begins where you want to begin. You may be having difficulty starting a new relationship, believing in yourself, no desire to have sex with your partner, or maybe you feel lost like you don’t know yourself. Trauma Therapy is paced slowly in order to give you time to develop trust and learn skills to help you feel better. As you develop skills, we begin to unpack layers of traumatic events. Here’s my honest truth: Trauma therapy is not a quick fix. Trauma therapy takes time, often months or even years, and sometimes things get worse before they get better.This work takes time because change takes time. But, trauma therapy works.
Here’s our roadmap
What does trauma therapy look like with you?
Trauma therapy is all about your safety; therefore, it involves a lot of pacing. It’s important that you get to know me, I get to know you, and that we spend time building a strong therapeutic foundation. It involves integrative and interactive interventions. Plus, I am not the therapist that is going to just sit and nod. I help you find the connection between your past and present while encouraging to accept accountability for your future. In trauma therapy, we will utilize creative tools like:
- therapy cards
- singing bowls
- guided visualization
These tools will help your body re-story the trauma. You want to heal and I want to help you get there.
You have all the tools within, it’s time to awaken them. Contact me today to join the other resilient women I’ve helped and further your healing journey.