You are not what happened to you

Two things first:

1. You are so resilient for being here. 

2. You are deserving of healthy love.

The thing about relationships with the dynamics of power and control is that what is occurring is not always apparent. People often say: “You should’ve known” and my response is always: Uh, no. You’re in love. When you’re in love you are not thinking that the person you love wants to bring you pain.

I feel shame because I am educated and successful. I should’ve been able to recognize what was happening

You have been your own biggest supporter all of your life. It’s so hard to feel like you let yourself down. You didn’t. Life threw a curve-ball and you did the best you could to ensure you survived the relationship.

I can’t talk to the people closest to me about my relationship because they judge me. Are you going to judge me?

There is such a stigma surrounding relationships and domestic violence. This can feel so isolating. No, I am not going to judge you. The fact that you are even reaching out to me is an act of bravery.

I was in a same-sex relationship when I experienced domestic violence, is this a safe place for me?

Absolutely! Domestic Violence occurs in same-sex relationships and often times the power/control dynamics are different than that of heterosexual relationships. Considering this, it’s important that the therapeutic experience is safe, individualized and personalized. I stand firm in creating a safe, trauma informed space and it would be an honor to share it with you. Thank you for considering me.

What does therapy look like with you?

I don’t just talk and nod my head. I listen with empathy and discuss ways to deal with unhelpful and unhealthy thoughts and behaviors. I will teach you creative and holistic techniques to help you lean in, manage distress and enable you to move forward. You’ll learn to express and come to terms with the broad range of emotions involved in the healing process, from those that you may expect – such as sadness, or confusion – to those that come as a surprise – such as relief, anger, or self-doubt.

I’ve helped other women reach healing. It would be an honor to help you.