One thing you will hear me say a lot is: life doesn’t come with a blueprint. I say this phrase a lot because it’s so true. We each experience life and in doing so we do the very best that we can until our best stops being good enough. Truth is, it doesn’t feel good when bad things happen and it feels even worse to not know where to begin to make yourself feel better. After all, you’ve been superwoman all of your life, right?
Experiencing the murder of a loved one is life-changing. One day life is perfect and the next day everything comes crashing down. I am so sorry that this happened to your loved one.
I should know how to help myself
You’ve been helping yourself and others all of your life. I know you can do it and you can know you can do it. Your capability is not a problem.
I am a good person and they were a good person. Why would my loved one be taken away?
There is no easy answer to this and honestly, life can suck at times. You know, the one thing about life that is predictable is that it is unpredictable. I can’t tell you why this happened to you or your loved one but I can tell you that you deserve the opportunity to discover how you want to honor them with your life.
What should I know about engaging in trauma therapy to help heal from the murder of my loved one?
While you are working to re-define yourself and your life, it won’t happen overnight. While you’re healing life will still be happening. You may still have to field insensitive comments from others and navigate the legal system. Trauma therapy isn’t about fixing you because there is nothing wrong with you. It’s about allowing space for integrative techniques to foster healing. Healing takes time but is possible.
What does therapy look like with you?
I don’t just talk and nod my head. I listen with empathy and discuss ways to deal with unhelpful and unhealthy thoughts and behaviors. I will teach you creative and holistic techniques to help you lean in, manage distress and enable you to move forward. You’ll learn to express and come to terms with the broad range of emotions involved in the healing process, from those that you may expect – such as sadness, loneliness, or exhaustion – to those that come as a surprise – such as relief, anger, or an overall sense of confusion. I’ve helped countless women find purpose again after the murder of a loved one. It would be an honor to help you.